10 Ways to Say “I Love You” without Saying a Word
Valentine’s Day is upon us again. By now, you’ve hopefully been to the store and gotten whatever you need to make it a special day. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you’re done though. Cards and presents are only two ways to show you care. For real romance, it’s the unspoken gestures that make all the difference. Check out these 10 ways to say “I love you” without saying a single word.
1. Offer help
I know you’re thinking this doesn’t sound very romantic, but it can be one of the greatest things you can do for someone else. These days it seems everyone carries around a to-do list with them that’s a few miles long. You can give flowers and chocolates, but at the end of the day, stuff still has to get done. So why not go ahead and take out the trash or tackle that pile of laundry that they may be avoiding? When you help them get their chores done, that leaves more time for the two of you to spend together.
2. Breakfast in bed
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Serving breakfast in bed became a romantic classic for a reason. We all love breakfast, but there’s a reason it’s the most skipped meal of the day. After you’ve hit the snooze button a few hundred times and finally made it to the kitchen, it’s almost impossible to work up the energy to scramble eggs and fry bacon. Do your partner a favor and bring them a delicious, no-stress breakfast they can eat right there in bed. Because really, what better way to show someone you love them than by waking them with the smell of bacon?
3. Go with their preference
Compromise is an important part of any relationship. It is a partnership after all. So on some nights, you might end up circling the neighborhood trying to figure out where you both can agree to eat. Or you may debate for hours over whether you should watch the new action movie or romantic comedy. Instead of entering the ring, why not let your partner have their way? When it comes time to pick that restaurant or decide what to watch, name what your partner wants right away. Without the stress of making that decision, they’ll be able to enjoy their favorites even more. And just maybe, you will too.
4. Silently start a staring contest
You’ve probably heard that the eyes are the window to the soul, but have you ever put that to the test? Take the next opportunity to do just that by starting a staring contest with your partner. They may not notice at first, but see if you can turn up the intensity enough to grab their attention. Before long, you’ll both be staring eye to eye and gazing into just how much love there is behind that window.
5. Send pictures
If you have a full time job and a 30 minute commute each way, you’re spending more than a fourth of your year at work. That’s a long time to be away from someone you love. During a stressful day, it’s refreshing to have a reminder of who we’re doing it all for. Sending a picture of yourself to your partner at work is guaranteed to make their day a little brighter. Seeing you blowing a kiss or sending a loving wave will be one interruption from a busy day that your partner will cherish.
Even though the number of hours in a day hasn’t changed, the time we have to do what we want seems to get shorter and shorter. Part of that has to do with our work schedules and errands, but we usually end up wasting the time that we have left. When we get home, watching that latest viral video or playing with our new cell phone game seems like the perfect way to relax. Before long, the day’s over and we’ve hardly seen our partner. To fix that, set aside time to spend with your loved one. Even if it’s just a date night at home, spending your time like this will be remembered a lot longer than those cute cat videos.
Sometimes the best ways to show your love for someone is to do nothing more than sit and listen. You may have to say a few words to get things started, but let them do most of the talking. You can start small by asking about your partner’s day or asking about something that put a smile on their face recently. You may want to dig even deeper and learn new things about what make them tick. By giving them your complete attention, they’ll know that you truly care and value them.
The power of touch has been scientifically proven. In 2010, researchers in Berkeley studied groups of basketball teams. They found that the group that touched the most, cooperated the most and, as a result, won the most games. So whether it’s reaching for your partner’s hand while walking or just putting your hand on their back during a sermon, it’s a scientific fact that touching will bring you closer as a couple.
9. A Warm Welcome
Imagine it’s a dark, rainy day. Your partner just finished a hectic day at work. On the way to their car, they step in a puddle and soak their clothes. Then the traffic on their ride home is a congested, soggy mess. As they pull up to the house, would they rather see you waiting for them or a locked door? Obviously, they’d rather see you. If you greet them as they come home with a big smile and an even bigger hug, you can watch their stress melt away. Then you can start the rest of your evening with a much happier and refreshed partner.
10. A Surprise
If you really want to get the romance stirring, you’ve got to take your partner’s breath away. You can’t do that by thinking in the box so do something unexpected. If you don’t normally wear the chef’s apron, try it on and cook your partner’s favorite meal. Guys, if you’re not already acting like Prince Charming, now is the perfect time to start. Open your lady’s door for her and pull out her chair when you go to dinner. Sometimes, though, the biggest surprises come from something more subtle. For example, add a new photo of the two of you to the house or change your desktop wallpaper to a picture of your mate. When they notice, make sure you take advantage of their surprise to tell them something special like how much you love being reminded of them when they’re not around.